On the whole many of us go through life reacting to circumstances rather than spending time deciding what it is that we really want out of life.
I am reminded of a passage in Alice in Wonderland - Alice asked the cat which way she should go. The cat asks Alice where she wants to get to, to which she replies that she doesn't much care. The cat says "in that case it doesn't much matter which way you go"
Circumstances will often dictate which path we take at that time, but we always have the option to change direction!